I know you’re angry. 

Anyone in your position would be. 

But—maybe it’s not falling into place because you are looking at it from the wrong perspective. 

Not the patterns, not the damage, not the hurt, not the experience, not the avoidance, or the lack of empathy.

Remember you’re here, right now, because of all that hurt you want to scream to the world. 

You didn’t see it before having no choice. 

That line that hurts every time you hear it…

“If you haven’t experienced it, it’s extremely difficult to grasp.”

-Everyone who’s seen it.

You know why, you’ve said it many times. 

It’s not meant to be seen. 

And it’s so painful and toxic and manipulated…

You’re right. People’s lack of self awareness and acceptance really is making this difficult. 

Those feelings are valid. 

But do you want them to see it, really? 

Yes, hold those accountable that are causing harm without remorse. 

But the ones who you see beyond that. 

Who haven’t had to see what you’ve seen. To feel what you feel. To fall like you have. To climb like you are. 

They don’t have to know all of it. 

You’re “contained” in the wrong meaning. 

Contain that for your therapist, your writing, your art, your drive. 

Don’t contain your empathy, your helpful mentality, your love…

That’s how to fight this fight. 

Not with lessons in what people need to change. 

In actions that make people feel safe. 

You can be a mirror that carries truth and the best angle. 

Show up, don’t quit, don’t fight for your truth to be acknowledged.

Fight for the way to treat someone. 

You scroll past things that hurt. 

You have to avoid some stuff because of how painful it is to see. 

You also show up. When the world expects to you fail. 

You’re humbled, honest, accepting, and forgiving. 

Breaking patterns doesn’t mean showing everyone everything. 

It’s creating new ones for people to follow. 

You’re doing it.

And the person next to you is not the one to follow the pattern. Don’t give him any more attention, even if it’s fighting his deceit with “proof.” 

Give him nothing but human decency. 

Not respect, not forgiveness, not awareness. not compassion. 

Just human decency. 

He will do whatever he does. 

But if you keep trying to show something that took years of trauma to see to people—you’ll never be free. 

You got this. 

Keep going. 

Don’t let your clarity blind your strength. 

You don’t have anything left to fix. 

Nothing left to prove. 

Now it’s time to do it. 

Without the expectations of others to be honest. 

Keep them safe from the parts they don’t have to see. 

By keeping yourself safe from the worst of it.

And rising above the hurt.

I’m so proud of you.

I’m here to remind you.

We got this.

Love,

Future You.